Carry On

Through the stories of others we can share the pain of loss and the joy in memories. We can remind each other what it is to cry and grow and ultimately pick up the pieces and move on with our lives, no matter how slowly. Memory is not only a tool of immortalization or honor, but also a retreat and a comfort. In Jonathan Safran Foer’s 2005 book, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, he explores the psyche of a young boy, Oscar, whose father was killed in the attacks on the World Trade Center. In the book Oscar struggles to make sense of his life but finds comfort in the memory of his father and does all he can to preserve it. Through the character and his book, Foer asks us deep questions like ‘What was it really like to be there?’, ‘Do we dishonor the dead by moving on?’ and ‘What does one do when they’ve lost everything?’.

Writer David Rieff thinks it’s time to move on. In his article, After 9/11, The Limits of Remembrance he discusses the ignored benefits of forgetfulness. It is his opinion that to forget is to heal and to move on. To put so much energy into memorializing, he says, only prolongs feelings of sadness and resent. Pearl Harbor is an adequate example in that the majority of people have ‘forgotten’ the event (very rarely think of it), allowing for peaceful relations with Japan. Rieff’s point is that we must forget to forgive and to carry on with our own lives.

In my own opinion, I value the keeping of memories over ignoring them. To forget may be easier, but blissful ignorance is ignorance just the same. It is when we remember the mistakes of our past that we learn from them. It is when we look back on the memories of lost loved ones that we can enjoy their warmth again, even if only in our own minds. You can’t fully move past a tragedy without forgiveness, but that doesn’t mean we need to lose our past entirely. The middle ground is the destination- that place where we can honor the fallen and forge on as a nation of peace.

-Cali P

Remembrance

When I look back, the attacks on September 11th, 2001 seem to be such a trivial tragedy in the mind of a child. I was only 7 years old, and while there is no denying the horror and impact of the event on a large scale, it was just so mind-numbingly foreign that, as a child, I had trouble fully grasping what had actually happened. I remember feeling confused, but no real feelings of dread really hit me. Only after observing my parents’ looks of dismay and uncertainty was I able to try to replicate, understand, and feel those emotions. I saw the need to be scared and sad, but the feelings just weren’t genuinely there.

Now, this isn’t to say that the event is by any means insignificant. When I Iook upon it now, 9/11 was a horrible tragedy that changed a city, a country, a world. With the wisdom and experience that comes from even ten years, I can understand it’s weight more fully now than I did then. It wasn’t just a terrible loss, though.  It was so much more than that. It was a source of national unity, of communal togetherness. Neighbors helping each other cope, separated family members reconnecting with each other, strangers helping other strangers with the simplest of tasks. Everyone was an American, and this unifying characteristic seemed to override the day to day prejudices and preconceptions. While I’m not necessarily convinced, I hope that the unity is what sticks.

Remembrance is a fickle beast, however. Long after the sentiment of 9/11 has worn off, there are few things people remember. And as Rieff talks about in “The Limits of Remembrance,” people tend to remember the bad instead of the good. As time passes, the sense of unity slowly wears away until people only remember the wrong done and harbor animosity and retribution. And eventually, Rieff claims, 9/11 will eventually follow the path of most important events and fade from the collective consciousness of the world altogether.

But is 9/11 an exception to that rule? With the immediacy of it’s coverage and the abundance of pictures and videos, 9/11 is the most well-documented tragedy in American history to date. While that may stand out now, I don’t necessarily know if it’s enough to make 9/11 an outstanding event that will never be forgotten. It may be the first event to gain so much coverage, but if there ever happens to be another huge tragedy in America, (hopefully there won’t be, but these days you never know) it won’t be the last. With the advent of technology and media in our world today, any subsequent events will be documented just as well as–if not better than–9/11. It’s an uncomfortable idea to toy with, especially so early on, but it’s probable that 9/11 will lose it’s significance in this respect.

And maybe that’s for the better. As time goes on, this over abundance of coverage will become the norm, and people will become jaded on it’s novelty. It’s possible that many people will be unable to form their own emotions, the same problem I had as a child, and pick up on the feelings of vengeance referred to by Rieff. While people are supposed to regard and learn form the past, we are also supposed to move on and leave the past behind us for reasons such as this. If the sentiment of unity from 9/11 can’t be relayed through time, it only leaves room to breed hate. All of the animosity can only grow and distort itself into mindless prejudice as time passes, and that would only serve to be detrimental to that ever-important sense of unity. If such is the case, maybe 9/11 would be better left in the past.

Defense and Criticism of Rieff

I have found the many responses to Rieff’s work, both in class and on this blog, quite intriguing and intelligent. However, as I go back to his work for my own response, I find that many of the arguments against his opinions have already been mentioned and countered in his lengthy article. For example, Rieff recognizes that his view “is not a view that finds favor anywhere today.” He expects criticism. He acknowledges a point many have mentioned; that “no one in their right minds would expect the loved ones of those who died on 9/11 to forget.” He asserts that the memory that will be lost is not an individual’s memory, but a society’s memory, as the generations pass. He affirms that “remembrance is humanly necessary,” and is not dismissing the idea of having a memorial at all. He is just taking note of a pattern that is likely to repeat itself for this historic event. His argument is not to be taken offensively.

While I appreciate Rieff’s perspective, I do not necessarily agree with it, and I definitely do not agree with his method of delivery. I find it ironic that he admits that “it is too soon” to even consider forgetting, yet he insists on presenting insensitively. I speculate that many miss the point of Rieff’s article because they are distracted by his condescending tone. Such a stance puts readers, especially those who have been affected by 9/11, on the defensive, and they automatically dismiss his ideas. Discussing such a controversial subject, it would make sense for him to be less cynical and pessimistic in his tone. His negativity takes away from his work and its ultimate goal.